Originally Posted By: Risky Business

Originally Posted By: loudsubz

Originally Posted By: Risky Business

Originally Posted By: loudsubz

Originally Posted By: Risky Business

ITT poor time management

Your kid doesn't even walk yet, post back when you're having to deal with that lol

It really is irrelevant, most people are poor time managers that's why their lives are "so busy". Quality of parenting also is one variable that's hard to quantify in the micro so a lot of parents won't be outed until their kids are older and we see what the kids are like $\:\)$

There is no need to be triggered. Parenting is time consuming, but aside from a few outliers where people are working/commuting like dogs and legit have no time, most people are just shitty at managing time. That's why some people get their "work" done at work in 2 hours, others can never find the time in the 8 hours they do have.

It makes a huge difference lol don't kid yourself

I'm not talking about managing time in general that's be another discussion, I'm talking about how much time is dedicated to your child during the course of their "awake" time, even if it's just sitting with him/her eating a meal or watching tv, it's still time dedicated to their well being

I noticed a big difference from when my son couldn't walk to now. When they are immobile and they can entertain themselves for awhile in a baby swing or something you get a little
Bit extra time to do whatever you need to...when they start moving around and you need to be on top of them more those extra few minutes are gone

please tell me how wrong I am though $\:\)$ I don't comprehend real life sometimes :p

I am not debating the above, we can all agree when they are awake they need 24/7 supervision and care. I am sure that varies between stages/milestones, but you are still 100% occupied, whether you are doing 10% more at the walking stage or not to me is irrelevant, your time (the only variable here) is still consumed, maybe it's a more relaxed or focused time. To me we are splitting hairs.

The only thing I can see being a defining factor is that when you put your kid on a playmat or whatever you can go on your phone or do random shit. We personally don't do that, we stay engaged with her and generally don't have phones around her at all, but again it's different between people and situations. I suppose now if I sit her in her play station and ignore her then you are right, when she is walking I won't be able to ignore her. This entire argument is based me ignoring her now, which I (most importantly my wife) doesn't do. Maybe most parents do? DOn't know, don't care either, but yes then your point is valid.

I am talking about poor time management in general, not related to quality time with your kid. There are very few circumstances where parents can cry about not having time, if they have zero help from their parents, if it's a single parent, if it's a child with disabilities. Most people don't have to deal with those three so they can STFU as there are parents that are REALLY struggling and it's not because they can't go on FB to update their status.

i agree, i'm not complaining in the sense like "help me I don't have a minute to take a selfie, my kid wants me to feed him dinner" lol

i shoulnd't say I don't have time, I should rephrase that my days are very "full" I enjoy every second of it, I guess my inner self sometimes envies the extra time non parents have to do whatever the F they want, but all the positives about having kids quickly bring me back and I wouldn't want it any other way

(same boat as you before I had kids as well, didn't really want anything to do with them, and I gave my wife a hard time at the beginning when she wanted to start having kids lol)